As I went for my early morning walk, I came upon a mushroom, amongst many others on the same walk. I noticed how it was being eaten with varying degrees and this got me thinking about my clients – past and present and indeed future.
Counselling doesn’t always have to be a series of sessions. We work together you (the client) and me (the counsellor) to get to where you would like to get to.
Sometimes when I have finished working with a client, they may get back in touch for a one of session to look at what is niggling them right now. They really appreciate and enjoy having the space to explore what is going on for them.
This may seem surprising, but some clients make only want one session, just purely to look at the immediate situation they are in and I may signpost them to other professionals be it solicitors or doctors for example.
The main point, is that all of these clients, are amazing in my eyes. They all noticed that something was ‘Eating them up’ and they wanted to do something about it.
Even if it was to ‘get it off their chest’, or speak to someone that wasn’t a friend or relation – someone completely mutual and understandably non-judgemental.
Please refrain from keeping yourself in the dark with whatever is eating you up. Find whatever source may help you to acknowledge what it is, even if you don’t want to do anything about it right now – that’s ok too.
I believe even the simple act of noticing what is causing us discomfort can lead us to feeling less alone or indeed less troubled. Through noticing, you start to take out the ‘power’ that it may feel it has on you. It can give you the opportunity to look at it in a more pragmatic way. You could look at it clinically, by removing the emotion attached to it and looking at it from another angle. How might your friend view this or a colleague?
My concern with us not look at what is eating us up, is that whilst that problem is eating away at you, another problem can also start to eat away at you and without realising it, you can suddenly find yourself overwhelmed. The knock-on effect that this can have on your day to day life can become debilitating.
You could call the Samaritans (T: 116 123) there is someone at the end of the phone day or night 24/7. Believe me you do not need to be suicidal to speak to them. The most common reasons people contact them, is about relationships or family problem along with bereavement when someone has died.
A faceless friendly ear, could be just what you need.
Not feeling able to speak, that’s ok, you can email them; firstname.lastname@example.org although the response time is 24 hours just to let you know. There are branches in the UK and Ireland if you want to pop in and see someone face to face or you could put pen to paper and write to them; Chris, Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK, PO Box 9090, Stirling FK8 2SA.
No, I do not work for the Samaritans, but I totally advocate what they do and stand for.
You can indeed slef-refer through your GP for Time to Talk, unfortunately though the waiting list can be quite long. There may be another voluntary or reduced rate counselling organisation in your area, or you may choose to see a private counsellor.
Any of these avenues can be helpful, the biggest thing for me, is that you recognise something is eating you up and that you don’t have to get through it on your own.
Now is the time for you to reclaim you – go for it – because you are so worth it!