Generally when we purchase something, such as a TV or new item of clothing, we hand over our money and walk away with something tangible, something that has by definition a ‘physical presence’. Counselling is an intangible product. You see your counsellor for 50 minutes, pay for your session and leave with nothing to physically show for your money.
You may even think why would I go to counselling? How will I know if it’s working? Because you don’t have anything physical to walk out with it may prove challenging to see how the effects of counselling are actually benefiting you.
However, there is a physical side to counselling that I have noticed. When I check in with my clients towards the end of their sessions to see how they are they say they feel lighter, calmer, happier, relieved, glad to have ‘got it all out’. So in those instances there has been a physical change but its still not tangible or perceptible to touch.
That’s where the camera comes in. When you have completed your counselling and feel you no longer need to attend any more sessions for the time being (sometimes a top up session can be helpful every once in a while) I suggest that you get someone to take a photo of you and put a note in your diary for say 3-6 months time saying ‘compare photos’.
If you look at a photo of yourself taken before you started counselling and compare it with photos taken since finishing counselling I believe you will notice a difference in yourself, it could be the way you stand, the way you are holding yourself, you may notice you look more confident or relaxed or genuinely happy.
As a counsellor, I see my clients evolve over the sessions and grow into themselves, I see them learn to love themselves and realise how important they are. I also notice how their posture changes and how they enter the room more confidently.
I remember once talking to a client who was ready to leave counselling and they evaluated how they had changed and I had said if I showed you a photo of yourself on your first session and one today you would be really surprised as to how far you had come. My client said she wished I had taken a photo, but I think walking through the door for your first session with a counsellor is hard enough without me popping out a camera!
Are you curious to see how beneficial counselling may be for you?
You can contact me for an initial conversation or to arrange a session,
My private practice is based in West Sussex, where I will offer you a safe and confidential space for You to talk about whatever You feel you would like to talk about.
Not everything is tangible but unlike a TV or item of clothing that tends to need replacing – counselling gives you tools for life!
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Whatever word you choose: testimonials, feedback, comments or reviews, hearing what other people say about a person or product will often assist you in making a decision whether to use them or not.
Although it can feel strange to share the good things that people have said about you, sometimes it is important to “blow your own trumpet”. I am proud of the feedback I have had from my clients during my time as a counsellor. All of my testimonials are anonymous due to confidentiality, but they are all genuine and exactly what clients have said. On my About Me page, I talk about the importance of trusting that your counsellor is right for you and I continue to uphold that. Deciding to see a counsellor can feel difficult enough, but with the right one, it can feel less painful and hopefully a place where you can feel safe and comfortable enough to talk about what is going on for you.
Choosing your counsellor and feeling confident with them is as important as choosing your dentist or hairdresser. You wouldn’t keep going to the same hairdresser if they didn’t listen to what you wanted. When you have a dental appointment, whilst you may not actually enjoy going to the dentist, you need to trust them and feel confident that they know what they are doing. This could be in the way that they reassure you, or talk through what they are going to do.
You may not feel comfortable asking a friend or colleague for a recommendation for a counsellor, in the same way as you would for a hairdresser. So internet searching is likely to be the first place you start.
Browsing www.counselling-directory.co.uk may help you draw up a shortlist of possible counsellors – I’m on there too! Counsellors have different techniques and methods. As you will see from the testimonials I have received my approach has really worked for my clients, perhaps it could for you too?
So what have my clients said about me….
Sophie is: Approachable, compassionate, helpful, listener, professional, reassuring, supportive, understanding.
And how was counselling for them, when working with me….
Comfortable, gave me confidence, helped me through, important in my life, invaluable, listened to, taken seriously.
For more read my testimonials by clicking here, or watch the video below.
If you would like to see if I am the right counsellor for you, why not take advantage of my free introductory twenty minute session and contact me. My private practice is based in West Sussex, where I offer a safe and confidential space.
Having the right counsellor is important because You are important!
What would You like to be when you grow up? Close your eyes, allow your mind to drift off and focus on that thought. You may be grown up now, but take this moment to remember the younger you – what was it that you wanted to be when you grew up?
Imagine, as you do this exercise, going back to the hopes and dreams of your younger self. You may be smiling now remembering what your ambitions were or maybe remembering what you definitely didn’t want to do.
It’s still not too late to look at where You are in your career or life and make changes that will give you more balance, enable you to do things you enjoy and not just the regular day-to-day chores… imagine…
Whilst I can help you if you are in the above situation, (do feel free to contact me), this blog post is actually about looking at young carers.
The definition of a Young Carer is “someone aged 18 or under who helps look after a relative who has a condition, such as a disability, illness, mental health condition, or a drug or alcohol problem. Most young carers look after one of their parents or care for a brother or sister”.
One thing that is really important for a young carer is for them to have permission to think about themselves. They have put themselves to the back, maybe not even seeing themselves (metaphorically speaking) or being aware of their own needs. When a young carer thinks about making time for themselves they may feel selfish or that it is a pointless or even impossible task to take time out from their caring role.
A young carer may encounter many feelings and not know what to do with these feelings or how to communicate them. If they were given the space, they could explore what it feels like for them in their role, how it feels when they compare themselves to their friends, do they even see them as similar to their friends? Giving a young carer the time and space to play with their ideas about their future or what they would like to do right now, is about saying, its ok for you to be You. It’s completely ok and acceptable for You to have dreams and hopes, for you to maybe want to kick a football about with your friends or to join the ballet after school class
By giving the young person, because that’s fundamentally what they are, the opportunity to express how life is for them you are saying that they are more than a young carer, they are a young person who is entitled to reach for their hopes and dreams.
I work with a wide range of different ages of clients and maybe you are a young carer or someone that knows a young carer who may benefit from working with me, or perhaps you need my assistance in finding other support groups. I have a private practice in West Sussex, where I offer a safe and confidential space. I have an Enhanced DBS Check, this is the new name for a CRB check.
I can offer a first 20 minute session free, after the 20 minutes are up, we can either stop there and you can go away and think about if I am the right counsellor for you, or we can continue and turn the session into your first full 50 minute paid session.
You can contact me for an initial conversation or to arrange a session.
Together, let’s make a small step for a young carer to become a young person.
What is it that You would really like for Christmas?
Christmas can be an incredibly challenging time for many, it can exaggerate how you are feeling. You may be feeling sad or have a problem with your relationship, but everywhere you look, there’s sparkle and Christmas cheer – well that’s what the commercial part of Christmas will have You believe.
You may already be struggling to ‘keep up’ with others and now with the added pressure of Christmas, failure starts to creep in. It is really important to remember You are not the only one that is finding the 25th December and all its trimmings overwhelming – its true!
You may indeed be looking forward to many parts of this festive time of year and it may be only one of the ‘trimmings’ that sticks in your throat. If so, what is it, what would you like to change that can you help towards making that change?
What does the thought of Christmas bring to you, do you feel anxious, depressed? Does it cause you stress, is it the thought of spending time with certain family members or friends? You don’t have to be alone with these issues. If you were to come to counselling we can look at the impact of the festive season on You and ascertain what coping strategies You could put in place to make it more manageable for You.
At Christmas sometimes emotions can run high and outbursts of anger can happen, this can be for a variety of reasons! You may have been finding life difficult and now with what feels like the added pressure of making a ‘picture perfect’ Christmas it has become all too much.
You could write a list of all the things that are causing you concern. Next see if you can break each point down even further, then see if there are any changes or suggestions that could be made to help the situation not seem so overwhelming.
Lets look at the Christmas dinner as an example…
Here is the first list:
Who is coming for the Christmas dinner?
Who is cooking the Christmas dinner?
Which foods are presented for the Christmas dinner?
The second list could look like this:
Who is coming for the Christmas dinner?
X, Y & Z are coming for dinner, but I always sit next to Y and I’m not keen on them. Okay, can you present a different seating plan, or change seats at each course.
Who is cooking the Christmas dinner?
My partner always cooks the dinner and I have to clear away and wash up. Okay, does this give you time away from Y, or does Y come and speak to you which irritates you? Could you and others wash up as you go along, so where possible items are cleared away rather than a heap of pots and pans at the end? Would you like to cook this year, or go out, or have something that doesn’t make too much washing up?
If nothing else, writing a list and acknowledging what you may struggle with, is about honouring your feelings and acknowledging that “do you know what, I find Christmas difficult and therefore I will be the best that I can be on that day”.
If the festivities still feel too much, why not contact me to arrange a free introductory session, and lets start unwrapping Christmas and looking at what You need throughout December. We don’t even have to mention the ‘C’ word!
I am based in West Sussex and for ease, my private practice has free off-road parking.
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“I was apprehensive at first but Sophie made me feel at ease and comfortable and throughout she helped me believe in myself again and get the confidence and strength back. My time with Sophie was invaluable.”
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