Before you wander off into your head working out what the title of this months blog is all about, I would like you to imagine the following:
“You’ve woken up and feel alert, the sun is shining and you’ve only got a half-day at work. You’ve arranged for some nice things for you to do once you’ve finished work and then its round to a friends house for dinner – perfect!” It’s been one of those days where nothing can dislodge the smile from your face. Until you are driving home and from out of nowhere someone pulls right out in front of you, causing you to break suddenly, then to make matter’s worse, they gesture at you in a rude way as though you were the one at fault.
When you get into bed that night what is the one thing that you remember about the day? Will it be the sun, the nice things you did, or the delicious food and great company at your friends? Or will you lie there still silently stewing about the person who behaved so inconsiderately towards you.
Often it seems that we can focus on the negative much more so than the positive? Well there is a reason for that.
Although we as human beings have developed over the years, our survival technique of ‘fight, flight and freeze’ unfortunately has pretty much stayed the same.
Looking at the picture of the ducks above, the smaller one to the left is the positive part of our brain, the one on the right, is our survival part of the brain. Our survival part is what kept us safe all those years ago, when we had to keep vigilant of the sabre tooth tiger etc. Now, whilst we still need ‘fight, flight and freeze’ to help keep us safe, we do not need it to be the size that it is. In order to get a balance between the two, we need to work extra hard on the small duck.
So how do we do this? Okay, before you go to sleep at the end of your day, close your eyes and think of three positive things that happened during that day. To start with, thinking of three can seem quite daunting but if possible, write them down. They can be anything, the sun was shining, the birds were singing, you had a laugh with a colleague, absolutely anything.
This does two things:
- You have started to nurture your positive part of the brain – brilliant!
- You will have given yourself the best chance of starting the next day off with a positive mindset (even if it does last only a matter of seconds)
It can take time, but I seriously recommend this, it Does Work and over that time, life won’t seem quite so continuously bad as it may have done previously.
I appreciate, it may take more than thinking of positive things to move you away from your feelings of anxiety or feeling sad, but it’s a start. What you could do, is contact me to arrange a counselling session. This will give you a specific amount of time each week to for us to look at what is going on for you and how together we can support You in working towards a more positive way of being – that’s suitable for You.
I do offer a free introductory session, or having made the decision to contact me, you may rather have a full 50 minute session.
Why not contact me and lets get you started on living the life that you would like to live.
I am based in West Sussex and for ease, my private practice has off-road parking.
Positive Mental Attitude is within your reach
– grab it –
you wont be disappointed!