I have had clients explain to me that their life feels like a balancing act – one false move and who knows what the outcome will be?
Sometimes You may not realise that you are adding one pressure after another onto yourselves or taking other people’s worries and adding them to your own ever-increasing burden. You may take other peoples stresses in the hope that you can ‘fix’ it for them, or feel you ‘should’ help them.
This may start off with You feeling that ‘things aren’t quite right’. You may have noticed that you have started to withdraw from your friends or socialising. Getting up in the morning may take even more of an effort and even the darker mornings can’t be blamed.
You may tend to notice that you’re not feeling your usual self and push it to one side, because to be honest, you either don’t have time to look at what’s going on, or you’d prefer not to look at any potential cracks. This is totally understandable and in lots of cases, you may be able to work out what is causing you to feel ‘wobbly’, but what if you don’t?
This where talking to someone can really help. If you think of the saying ‘the straw that broke the camels back’, it wasn’t actually the last straw as such that caused the problem, but the buildup of small actions that can leave us feeling unable to cope.
You may think that you are being melodramatic and dismiss your feelings, but they are Your feelings and our bodies are amazing at giving us signs about how we are doing – even if you may not want to listen.
Home life may be challenging, this could be with a partner, family member, extended / blended family, even the loss of a pet can have a huge effect on You and the home.
If you were to allow yourself to sit down with a coffee or cup of tea for ten minutes and take time out to see what you are balancing right now, no matter how small or insignificant it may feel, I think you will be surprised.
Try writing down a few things, I would now like you to rate them in order of burden or pressure. You can do this by colour coding them, Green = ok not too bad, Amber = a bit tricky, Red = your siren is going off! You can have several with the same colour. Or say you have 5 things, number them 1-5 in the same way as the ‘traffic light’ system above.
If nothing else, you have now given yourself permission to see what is potentially taking its toll on you and if you feel that you have no idea where to start or even writing the list was difficult, why not arrange to see me for an initial session to see how together we can enable You to have the balanced life that You are in control of.
No matter what is going on for you, you do not have to look a this on your own.
I can offer a confidential setting at my private practice based in Storrington. I am close to the A24 and have off-road parking. I look forward to hearing from you.
Allow yourself the opportunity to have what you need in your life.