You are never too old or too young for counselling. I have worked with clients ranging in ages between seven and over eighty years old.
At different times in our lives we can find things challenging. Sometimes these challenges may feel out of our control or, beyond our capabilities to deal with them. There is absolutely no reason why you need to deal with the challenge on your own.
We all go through lots of different changes in our lives and as a young person, starting school, different teachers, new friends can be overwhelming and this change doesn’t stop throughout the school years. Classmates change, friendship groups change and that’s without considering the changes that happen through adolescence. All of the above can have a detrimental affect on a young persons self-esteem. They may start to have anxiety, or find exams stressful, relationships may not be as rewarding as they hoped and again, this aspect, is only focusing on school. What about the dynamics at home? Young people absorb the stresses that their parents have, it could be financial or career related. They can be affected by the relationship their parents have with each other or how they are with their siblings. Each young person’s world is unique to them and no matter how close we are with that person we are still viewing, and judging, their experiences from an outsider’s perspective. Now, there is the third invisible presence of being ‘Always on’; email, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. This pressure alone can weigh young people down – the thought of not having their mobile device near them can in turn cause heightened anxiety. It’s invisible, because You are not seeing the impact internally that it is having on the young person. However, if you notice your child is withdrawn, or they seem to be distracted or short-tempered, it may be helpful to ask them if anything is causing them concern or worry, or if they would like to speak to someone else about it? Giving a young person a space to say how it is for them, uncensored, may be just what they need.
Throughout your lifetime there may be various situations that you might find it easier to talk to someone that isn’t a friend or relative. It may be important to You to have what is going on in your life validated, not dismissed – because your feelings do matter and You do have right to acknowledge them. It may be that you have tried to talk to a partner or someone about how you are feeling and you have felt that they either didn’t understand, or gave you a solution which is not what you asked for. Sometimes when I work with clients they perceive that how they are feeling may be irrational or silly. First and foremost these are your feelings so we need to take them seriously and understand what it is that is going on for you.
You may feel that you’re too old and what’s the point of seeing a counsellor. Again, I would challenge this perspective, you owe it to yourself to take your own problems seriously. Just because you feel you are ‘too old’ does that mean it’s ok for you to not look after yourself? You may think it’s too late, as this ‘thing’ that is causing you upset has been going on for many years, or that you have been in the relationship for so long that nothing can change or how can counselling help?
Well how about, you contact me to arrange a free 20 minute introductory session. Together we can look at what you are struggling with and after the 20 minutes you may feel relieved to have finally spoken about it. At that point we can either continue for another 30 minutes and then it will be a full paid session or you may want to arrange another time to have a full 50 minute session – the choice is yours – no pressure.
I can offer a confidential setting at my private practice based in Storrington. I am close to the A24 and have off-road parking. I look forward to hearing from you.
Because no matter what age you are – you count!